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Tarot Reading – Parenting My Children

As you may know, I have two beautiful daughters, who are both in the toddler years. While I love them completely, some days they are total hellions! Lately, they have been driving me up the wall more than usual, so I decided to consult my Legacy of the Divine tarot deck with this question:

“What do I need to know about raising my children?”

I decided to do a simple five-card tarot spread. From left to right, position one is the situation, two through four are the steps I need to take, and position five is the outcome.

  1. The Situation – Queen of Swords: With her sharp mental acuity and scathing wit, the Queen knows what is right and will do anything to make sure that justice is served quickly and often harshly. I have been feeling a lot like her lately! I’ve been laying down the law in our household, and the kids are testing the boundaries of the law at every turn. I am trying to be caring and compassionate while doing so, after all, I am a Queen of Cups by nature! But I often have to resort to immediate discipline to get my point across. While the Queen of Swords is effective, her demanding nature puts everyone in the house on edge, including me!
  2. First Step – Page of Cups: This card embodies child-like wonder and curiosity, and untested emotional waters. My first thought is that I have to meet my children where they are at in their emotional growth. Young and passionate, they don’t understand that their first impulses aren’t always ideal for their health and well-being. And they also don’t realize why I have to swiftly stop them from hurting themselves. I need to address their emotional needs and give them what will satisfy those needs while keeping them safe. I also need to avoid stifling their emotional development, and not resort to harsh words immediately unless it is the only alternative.
  3. Second Step – Ace of Swords: Signaling the beginnings of knowledge and a sharp mind, the Ace indicates that my children are quite intelligent, and if I am going to raise them well, I have to acknowledge that as well. Sometimes they use tactics, such as whining or pleading, to get their way, and my caring nature wants to tend to those “needs” instead of realizing that they are only ploys. While I can use the voice of reason to explain what they are doing is wrong, I do not need to be drawn into arguments with them. State the facts once, and let them decide whether they will comply or not. Also, I can address their budding intellect by providing activities that will keep them from getting bored, and keeping them out of mischief.
  4. Third Step – The Devil XV: The crafty devil appears to remind me that things are not always as they seem. When the children get out of line, I grow quickly stressed and overwhelmed. Yet I am the parent, and always the one in control. I need to remember that I have the choice to get mired in the power struggle, or rise above it and keep my cool. I can pick my battles, and decide what is truly important in my family life.
  5. Outcome – King of Wands: This powerful leader reigns through well-controlled intuition and willpower. His flame serves both a practical and spiritual purpose, benefiting everyone in his realm. He shows that I can remain cool and confident, as long as I remember my proper role as parent. I am not here to indulge my children, but to set a good example and lead them in the ways of the world.

Overall, I have every reason to believe that this issue can be resolved over time. While rule setting and butting heads will continue to crop up over the years, I can meet these challenges by meeting my children’s mental and emotional needs while remembering that I am always the one in charge.

Do you have any other insights to share about this tarot reading? Share your tarot wisdom here!

~Kimberlee

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2 Responses to “Tarot Reading – Parenting My Children”

  1. Serenity Bly
    Twitter: FutureTarot
    says:

    Hey Kimberlee,

    I wanted to add that I think the Page of Cups also indicates where they are at this stage. Particularly your youngest, is at the stage where SHE is the center of the universe. She’s oblivious to the wants, needs, and rights of others. This is completely normal at this stage of her development but perhaps what you can do is focus on teaching her about how she affects other people, how others may feel as a result of her actions, and how to include others in her very “Page gazing into her reflection in the cup” way of thinking.

    You nailed the Ace of Swords perfectly. I could see, “stimulate their minds” as the message in this card. They’re ready to begin learning and you may find you can stimulate them with activities where they’re using their intelligence. You may find, a part of the conflict that has been rising is because they’re both very intelligent but have not got enough outlets to develop that intelligence.

    With The Devil you said, “Yet I am the parent, and always the one in control.” I think what this card might be indicating is that you’re NOT always in control. Your little “angels” aren’t so angelic because they’ve reached the age where they’re becoming master manipulators. They may be playing you, provoking you, influencing your reactions. Again, this is a normal stage of development. Another aspect to remember about The Devil is that he’s charged with passionate energy and drive. It is vital to channel that drive in the right way. Find ways to passion their excess of energy, perhaps with physical activities, particularly ones where they must work together for the desired result. And, any time you feel yourself getting angry or frustrated remind yourself that you are in command of your reactions.

    Your King of Wands is perfect. I also see him as a guiding hand influencing the harnessing of power and passion. You’re teaching your children vital lessons about following what they love in life and working harmoniously with others. You’re a wonderful, passionate, creative mother who is the best person to raise these girls. Your persistence and courage is creating two very bright, talented, young ladies.
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  2. Kimberlee
    Twitter: kimferrell
    says:

    Thank you for all your insights Serenity! :)

    I agree, that Devil is all about the power play. They do play me, and I do realize that it is part of their natural development, but it is so frustrating! I have to remove myself from the struggle, or else I totally burn out. LOL!

    Great suggestions, and thanks for commenting on this reading! I always enjoy your insights.

    ~Kimberlee

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